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My cousin has a big wedding coming up and I'm a bridesmaid - I've pretty much already got everything I need for the wedding.

A dress, shoes, etc. My cousin has informed everyone that the wedding is black tie... So suits and jackets are required. My boyfriend has a problem with this though. He thinks its ridiculous my family is asking him to spend $100 or more on a jacket for this wedding and thinks its shallow. My mom said he can't come to the wedding if he doesn't have a jacket - which also pissed him off. Im going to be so embarrassed if I have to go to this wedding alone. It will leave a bad impression on my family.

My grandfather also recently passed and my boyfriend was there for me through the whole thing and was really helpful with that. But, when it came time for the funeral he decided to stay home because he refuses to board our dog - which I did tell him it was okay but I am still bothered by the fact that he didn't want to come. He said he could come for a few hours but I wanted him there the whole time because it was really hard for me.

I dont know what to do. I am feeling very overwhelmed and just want to make my family happy and I want him to be there - but he is making this complicated.

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Can he rent a tux’s or borrow one from a brother or friend? I’m sorry about your grandpa and that your bf didn’t come to the funeral- but he can’t go back and change that but he can show you his love by supporting you at the wedding. Explain to him that it is important to you and why you need him there. If he doesn’t want to support you I would rethink the relationship

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The wedding is about celebrating a couples union. It is about them, not about you or your boyfriend. Comply with the dress code request or don't show up. Plain and simple.

Suits can be rented. They need not be purchased.

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In all families there are social obligations.

What does it tell you about a guy who doesn't want to meet those obligations?

It tells you that he is not husband material.

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