Yeah; I think it is sometimes.

When you do nice things for people they can take it for granted, then when you stop they get angry and do things that cause trouble for you.

Remember when Jesus.....
.....and then.....happened?

Well, there ya go.

i say it all the time..

and yes its very true when it comes to my personal experience.. its like the saying you can do 99 things right and when you do one wrong.. they come after you.

do you have any recollection of my old post?

https://help-qa.com/posts/1502-more-work-bs-lol

And no one remembers what you do until you stop doing it.

It didn't stop Jesus.
It cost him His life.

Being truly altruistic always ends in a cost (or punishment) for the altruism.

When you give, give without expectation. Otherwise it’s not a good deed. It’s a self serving one

only worth doing good deeds to those who return the deed

But then who does the first good deed? Someone has to go first!

doesnt hurt to try out on a potential.. if no returns .. go for the next one.

Really if you think about it though, what could you possibly doing for anyone that's so advanced that they can't get off their lazy ***ass and do it themselves?

Unless you're doing some kind of specialized work, like building a friend a website for his garage band for example, then they really probably don't need your help in the first place and that they're asking for it probably just means that they'd rather let someone else do it simply because they don't want to.

Stop letting them be lazy pieces of crap and make them get off their lazy worthless ***ass and do it themselves!

And if you are doing something for someone that is a specialized skill that they really can't do, YOU SHOULD BE CHARGING THEM!

I disagree with that. My dad is a builder, his friend and electrician. They always had this mural agreement that if one needs work doing that the other can do then they do it.

My dad built walls and did plastering for him. And he fit showers and refitted the kitchen electrics for my dad. At the end of the day they sat down and drank beer.

Why can’t people work together?

This is a case where I should start a list of nonexhaustive situations whereby people genuinely need(ed) a hand, but if I did I WOULD HAVE TO CHARGE YOU!

It's easier to say that you're mentally and morally lazy and views as yours are sold wholesale cheap, full stop.

How is it mentally and morally lazy to expect one's time to be respected? I'm not really sure how you arrived at your opinion of my character from this reply, but I wasn't put here on this earth to service anyone at their beckon call. Besides, I think if you were going to call me out for anything it would be greed over generosity. But having had to do it myself, I'll just say that of course there's your buddy situations where you do a friend a favor, you might even donate to charity or help someone on the street. But beyond that, nothing and nobody is free. That's not being mentally or morally lazy. That's life. Everything costs money.

Because there are circumstances that have a higher value than your time and desire for validation.

It's a fact that the poorest of societies are the most generous and giving with their time and what little resources they have. People are a priceless resource.

Scenerio 1. It's winter, slick roads, etc. A lady diving a car full of kids ends up in a ditch with absolutely no physical injury to anyone, not even the car.

A guy driving a jacked up fully loaded 4X4, sees her predicament. He's on it fast - he calls the cops, the ambulance, the fire department, a tow truck and a taxi. A few minutes later he drives off and after a hard days work he goes home to his loving wife and tells her all about what happened earlier that day.
"My hero," she says.
And everybody slept well that night. The end.

Scenario 2. Same situation with the lady and the ditched car. But this time the driver of a junk truck 4X4 sees her situation. He gets out with a chain and hook and ultimately pulls the car out of the ditch onto the road.
From there, he bids the lady a good day and after a hard days work he's too tired to eat the dinner his loving wife made, much less remember the lady he pulled out of the ditch earlier.
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You asked a question, you got an answer. That'll be $19.95 How will you be paying today?

how can you be too tired to eat?

Or, scenario 3 (real life example too): A neighbor is trying to lift a sitting mower up a ramp into his pickup-truck bed. I see him struggle to lift the heavy machine up the ramp so I pull over to help him. The problem is, he saw me come out of my house before I helped and went on about my day. Since he knows where I live, he figures it's okay to come knock on my door the next time he loads his mower into his truck. He suddenly thinks I'm his *****bitch to come over and help him whenever he wants even though I consistently get nothing at all out of it. He thinks that's ok.

Do you??? o.O

I think it's wrong. And you can be a smart ***ass about it if you want I think it's kind of funny. But blowing my answers out of proportion isn't helping you to understand my point of view.

Besides, I'd rather err on the side of having my time mean something, than have it abused and wasted by a bunch of time wasting bullshit artists. So excuse me if I don't understand your lack of self respecting your own time. It's your life though. Waste it on time-wasters intending to find a push-over if you want!

+ Anonymous Repliant -

First: of course there are going to be those FEW who will try to take advantage of your good intentions.
It's wrong and people like that must be directly dealt with.
However, it is excuseless to forego all help to anyone truly in a moment of need.

Telling me that I can be a smart ***ass about it if I want IS BEING SMART ***ASS. You'll find I have zero humor or patients with mentalities such as that.

Secondly, the idea of including a third case scene to my first two examples is a sad attempt to redefine my original intent....AND miss the point.

Considering how self-important and conceited you are, the liberty is yours to determine how valuable your time and efforts are - great.
BUT, you have absolutely no place to judge the time of others and what they believe is important to them.

Just remember 'ol boy, your opinion is great until someone takes it and starts measuring you by your own standard.

As for me...I'd rather err doing something for others rather than live in a meaningless, hollow shell of self.

LOL
You make me sound so extreme. What's wrong with not wanting to have my time wasted? That doesn't make me bad, or evil, or selfish. That makes me what I thought everyone else was. I didn't think anyone wants their time wasted.

And of course there's nothing wrong with offering occasional help. It is why I presented the third example. An occasion where I personally offered some random occasional help. But in my example just like any other situation like it, it can and did turn into someone trying to get more from me than was offered or reasonable.

You've already said that sort of thing isn't cool. And I'm glad we agree.

But you also seem to be fairly more trusting than I am.
You might be in a close enough knit of society to not have experienced more than a few people trying to take advantage of you. Either that or you're still somehow otherwise naive to it. Which is fine. But trust me, it's not just a few it's a ****shit ton.

I've even coined a phrase to call them: "Bullshit artists" (several expletives can be inserted before bullshit. Depending on the type of bs. Example: Asshole bullshit artist. Stupid bullshit artist. etc. etc.)

If you think there's not a lot of greedy folks out there that will screw you over happily you're just wrong about this particular point. ****SHIT TON

Your examples btw are fine. I wasn't trying to change their flavor. I was just offering one of my own because it was personal to me and I thought it would help you understand what I mean.

As for being a smart ***ass well.. ya got me there. I just can't help it