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I have been ill for over a week now.

Some doctor actually developed an algorithm to determine if a person has the flu or just a bad cold.

It goes like this:

Question - "Do you feel like you've been hit by a train?"

Answer: "No."

Then you do not have the flu.

Answer: "Yes."

Then you have the flu.

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This is a long one, so please bear with me.

Other things to keep in mind:

In a marriage, there can be NO ultimatums.

One partner cannot act independently of the other. Everything must be a joint effort and a joint decision.

Anger and resentment are NOT tools of change in a marriage.

Beware of talking to your close friends about your situation. It is a fact that many people do not want to hear of other people's difficulties--and will actually encourage you to end the relationship so they won't have to hear any more about it.

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Questions for guys - Are you happier being with your wife/gf or your group of bros??

Amazing--it was only a couple of lines! I think Helpbot is tripping!

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Questions for guys - Are you happier being with your wife/gf or your group of bros??

DocteurRalph wrote:
I have always enjoyed the company of men more, except when I'm on a date and ***sex is on the menu. Then women are much more fun than men. The only problem is women don't really like to do the things I do. Hunt, fish, shoot guns, party my ***ass off, drive recklessly. I should have met Joe about 30 years ago, of course she was probably only 7..

Actually, my wife was only 8 when I was 20!

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sometimes everything seems bleak...

Confucius said, "The perfect is the enemy of the good."

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This is a long one, so please bear with me.

You and he saw two a bad marriage counselor. That's number one.

Your therapist wasn't so hot, either. That's number two.

I do not know your educational background, but I do not see a "need" to join the Peace Corps. If you already have teaching credentials, I'd apply for a teaching position in the state where you live. If you don't, I'd suggest that you pursue them.

You both need to step away from the "divorce" word. That's number three.

Here's what I deduce: he feels that he is not enough for you--that you have to add some kind of exotic adventure to your life. He feels that, sooner or later, he would be left behind.

That's why he changed his mind about children.

And here's the thing about Peace Corps duty: sooner or later, you have to come home. And then you are again at Square One, career-wise.

It's very hard for the two of you to talk right now, because each of you feel every word is charged and weighted with all kinds of meaning. It would be best to talk to a decent counselor now--if that's affordable. If not--you might try a pastor.

Your husband feels inadequate for your needs. He feels you need more than he can provide or give.

Remember, Araz, you are a very non-traditional Muslim woman. You have been casting off cultural restrictions left and right.

He's afraid that he will be cast off, too.

Hopefully this will provide some insights. Please try reassuring him that you don't need something exotic to complete your life, that you want to always be together and that you are not going to sally off somewhere without him.

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sometimes everything seems bleak...

Life is a struggle. We live in a society, but there is destructive competition within that society. You also eventually realize that you are mortal. All of these thoughts come crashing down on you. Especially at night.

Solution: you have to care, but not care. You assess what your contributions may be--and then you say "F--- it" You are not singlehandedly going to save the world. You may win 10 Nobel prizes, but you are not going to save the world.

"God," I will say, "I think I can do this much, but You must do the rest."

You do not try to take on God's role. You can't do more than you can do.

Once you decide that you are not Atlas, you can let God hold up the world instead.

So now you concentrate on that first priority, which is survival. Then you aspire to higher things.

But you accept that you are not irreplaceable, that the world will not stop if you do not get straight As or that promotion.

All is vanity, in any event.

Unburdened by unreasonable expectations, you are now free to achieve all you are capable of achieving--and even more, with a little help from God and your friends.

And always remember--do not judge yourself by the standards of this world. Human standards are deeply flawed and even corrupted. We honour those who do not deserve it, and do not honour the most worthy.

Survival is a priority. Yet the most important things are to give and receive love.

If you can do that, the standards of this world fall away . . . and you can see the skyline of heaven.

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I haven’t gotten any cravings to smoke (Day 10 Nicotine free!) but I’ve been told I’m crankier, I have a gross cough that won’t go away, and I’m tired all the time.

I have observed scores of people trying to quit. The most successful method was quitting cold turkey. No patches, no gum, no pills. Just quit. You may be antsy for a few days, but then the nicotine receptors in your brain start to shrink, and the craving will eventually go away.

The lowest form of life on this planet is the owners and executives of tobacco companies. I was reading some old issues of Field and Stream online and the tobacco companies filled the pages of that magazine with ads. Always portrayed was the virile, hairy-chested man with chiseled features--never the guy dying in the hospital with tubes hooked up to him.

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I have been ill for over a week now.

Since retiring from the Army, I haven't had a flu shot and haven't gotten the flu. In the Army, we were forced to get them. They always made me sick. I vowed that once I was out, I would never get another one. And I haven't. I believe in vaccines in general, but the flu shot is beyond worthless. It does NOT prevent the flu, but it CAN and OFTEN will make you sick. I've seen people get the flu shot and still get the flu--virulent cases, too.

Some years ago, the World Health Organization (WHO) spread panic about "Swine Flu" and got countries to stock up on the vaccine. Now, two things later came out: (1) the doctors working for WHO had financial interests in the flu vaccine companies, and (2) swine flu wasn't any worse than the other types. And, of course, their vaccine didn't work that well against swine flu, either. But wait! There's more! WHO also advocated stocking up on the antiviral drug, Tamiflu, which later studies have shown to not be that effective, and to also have some severe side effects.

By the way, flu first develops in animals such as chickens and pigs. Humans who live in very close proximity to these animals, e.g., in China, catch the flu from these farm animals. Then Uncle Ho, after getting infected, decides it's a good idea to take a trans-Pacific flight to California to visit his relatives there. THAT'S how flu develops and spreads around the world! If we could and would screen airline passengers much more thoroughly, we could eliminate the globe-trotting flu cases every year!

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Tree Stump O'Deep Thought .

We all need to bury the hatchet, sheath the knives, holster the guns, moderate our speech, actively listen and support each other as we continue on this journey!

And it can be a very long journey, indeed!

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