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Advice needed.

Araz wrote:

LOTS of time and practice. My therapist used to tell me this too.

It's really only ONE switch to flip. Change "always" or "sometimes" or "once in a while" to NEVER, then solder it in place.

Think of it this way: the rest of the world will always be critical of you, and no matter what you say or do, someone, somewhere will be upset, hurt and angry. So, since they've taken on those chores, you don't have to. You can choose to NEVER be critical, upset, hurt, or angry at yourself.

"I'm here in this place because I made decisions I thought were right for myself at the time. Now, I recognize I need to change directions and choose both a new path, and new ways of reacting to the challenges in front of me. Starting this moment, I'm going to treat myself like my own favorite child, hold myself in very high regard, and refuse to allow negative and hurtful attitudes to hinder me from living my best life or being my best self."

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Advice needed.

Change the self-defeating voice in your head to one that never, ever, ever abandons or judges you.

You choose the way you speak to yourself, and when you change that, everything else changes, too.

Instead of "oh, what a loser I am" make it "okay, that didn't work; I'll try again". It might take some time and practice, but you can do it.

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I am upset, i grew up with alot of you, and no one is left...

I'm still here.... I don't visit very often, and when I do there isn't much going on, but I try to do my share by posting a bit and hope that others will continue to, too.

It takes time for a site like this to really gain momentum, and the changes to the domains and such have been big setbacks, but I don't think it's dead yet.

We just all have to do our own part by posting when we can, and replying when we're able.

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Nobody else is going to start a post, looks like I'll have to talk to myself.

Just hang in there...sounds like the part that could've been the worst is behind you, and you're more prepared than ever for whatever is next.

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Nobody else is going to start a post, looks like I'll have to talk to myself.

I've never been to any of those meetings, but I do understand about the constant talk making you miss the substances you were abusing.

I went through similar when I switched to vaping. Everyone I knew either smoked, or wanted to discuss my choice to switch, and I finally had to pretty much isolate myself from everyone for a while.

Maybe you can bring the issue up at the meeting, and ask others how they deal with it?

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At the thought of going back to school, assuming I went through a two or four year program, I'd be about 43/45 years old.

If you're in the USA, it's not hard to start your own business. While I'm sure every state is different, an hour on Google will probably turn up everything you need to know, although it might be a bit daunting to read through and sort it out.

$1,000.00 and a single good idea can make you financially stable within a couple of years, and then you can decide what else you want to do -and while that's percolating, go on back to school & when it all starts coming together you'll have a whole array of new options to choose your path from.

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make sure all of you can view nsfw posts.

Because you keep cussing, which trips the site's censor.

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I donโ€™t have anything worth living for.

I know of a woman who is paralyzed, and has to live hooked to a machine.

Yet she recently fell in love and got married and is looking forward to a lifetime with her husband that will be very different than the lifetime of her past.

As long as you are alive, the possibility that everything you know will change exists. As long as you are alive, you hold the keys to make life whatever you want it to be.

But once you're gone, whatever life you had is all the life you'll ever have, and you will have given up without ever knowing how the story was going to play out, or what plot twists you missed.

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I got what I wanted.

He's adorable! :D

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I got what I wanted.

I once found an abandoned litter of 13 brand new puppies, and had to bottle feed all of them every two hours for over a month.

We call it "puppy Christmas" and it was one of the hardest things I've ever done.

My family was very supportive, and a LOT of people helped. But a few others said things that really hurt, and I broke off one friendship over it.

Just hang in there; they do grow very quickly, and really do want you to be happy with them, so they start settling down after a few months.

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